Carly Milne • Blog • "If you want it, you got it, you've just got to believe."

June 25, 2006

"If you want it, you got it, you've just got to believe."

There are certain things I’ve come to believe about relationships.

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sandra
11:23 PM
Jun 25 2006

Yes. To all of the above.

Jacynth
11:23 PM
Jun 25 2006

I believe you are right! Another one I would add: I believe that your partner should bring out the best in you and vice versa.

communicatrix
11:23 PM
Jun 25 2006

I believe that your dreams and goals don’t have to take precedence over your relationship – they can co-exist peacefully if you want them to, but the key is wanting them to and making an effort for them.

Two thoughts on the above:

1. In my experience, the 'simultaneous' thang is a myth. What it's more like is how so-called multi-tasking actually works—you flip really really really fast between things. Very closely related to this is...

2. It is imperative that you and your crazy cohort are on the same page when it comes to this. S/he needs to be supportive both of the goals thing AND on the same page regarding the importance of the goals/relationship mix.

Good list, kid. I love a good list.

Michael
11:23 PM
Jun 25 2006

Your Beliefs About Relationships are more insightful and apropos than traditional wedding vows...for someone so f'd up, how come you're so damn smart?

Carly
11:23 PM
Jun 25 2006

Good add, Jacynth.

And true, Comm. But it's all about balance, no?

So if it's such a good list, why do I feel like it's wrong?